People always ask me if they are trying to change by improving how they think and feel, do they have to let go of their friends who are more negative. The answer to this is yes and no! Obviously we can’t run from everyone because even though some people we know may be more negative, they may still have some good qualities we like about them. However, that being said, there may be some people we know who really are “toxic” and are so negative that it would be a good idea to greatly distance ourselves from them. A good idea when it comes to people we don’t want to totally distance ourselves from is to just limit our time with them. Maybe we only spend an hour with them instead of 3 hours. Or, maybe when we call them to chat if the conversation starts to veer towards negativity we do our best to change the subject. The reason for all this is because when it comes to the Law of Attraction, since it’s always responding to us, giving us more circumstances and situations that match our vibration, we want to spend more time at a higher vibration. A higher vibration feels good and that’s where we want to be as much as possible. When we keep ourselves at a higher vibration then we attract more experiences that are high vibration experiences. We’ll even attract people who are more positive, and some of our friends who are more low vibration will fade away because they can tell you’re not a match with them anymore. It’s also important to know that once we know how to deliberately keep ourselves at a raised vibration, lower vibration people won’t effect us as much because we’re feeling too good.
We all want to manifest something. It may be a better job, a new job, a relationship, a car, a dream home, or even feeling happier. But how does the Law of Attraction play a part in that? Well it’s always playing a part! The thing is the Law of Attraction is always responding to us. What that means is that it’s always responding to the feeling (vibration) we’re offering in general and about specific things. For example, if we want to attract a wonderful relationship but we’re constantly walking around with thoughts like “why is it so hard to meet someone” or “I’m never going to meet someone special” or “how come my friends are all with someone, but I’m not?” These and other questions of doubt or lack means we’re putting out negative energy (low vibration) about meeting someone. The Law of Attraction is just matching that and saying “ok, here’s more of it being hard to meet someone.” And as a result we’ll have more experiences that support that. However, if we’re walking around thinking more positive about meeting someone like “I can’t wait to be in a wonderful, loving relationship” or “I’m so excited about meeting someone special” then we’re offering a good, positive feeling about it (a high vibration), and Law of Attraction will respond by suddenly you’ll meet someone, or a friend will suggest someone they thought of you could date. The trick is to not get caught up in when or how, because when we do that brings in the doubt again. It’s important to think about what we’re focusing on so that we attract what we want, instead of more of what we don’t want!
You have to be careful who you’re getting Law of Attraction advice from. The other day I received a phone call from an old friend. After catching up, she informed me that she was teaching people about the Law of Attraction. At first I was happy for her, and that more people are learning about LOA. However, then she went on for about 10 minutes complaining and complaining about how much money she doesn’t have, how it’s so hard to find an apartment, and other negative (low vibration) thoughts. After our conversation (or more like her rant about what she doesn’t want) it was clear that she really doesn’t understand the Law of Attraction at all. Because if she did she would know that all that complaining was just setting herself up for those things to continue to be difficult for her to manifest. Are you focusing alot on what you don’t want?
A similar story. For those of you who don’t know, I am also certified as a Consulting Hypnotist. During my training, someone in the program told me that she teaches a course part-time called “Laws of the Universe” in which she spends about 10 minutes teaching about the Law of Attraction, and then she moves on to the next topic. First I was a little suspicious about only spending 10 minutes teaching about it. Throughout the hypnosis training she would tell me different stories about her current life issues. It was clear to me that she may know the basic definition of LOA, but she certainly isn’t practicing what she preaches because her current life situation would be much different, and here she is teaching people about LOA! Are you using what you know about LOA to benefit your life?
The above stories really showed me that many people “out there” who know about, and even teach LOA, are not using what they know, or they don’t fully understanding LOA, and that reflects how their lives are. So please ask yourself – do you really understand what LOA is, and are you really using what you do know to improve your life?
Choose to have a great day!
Life Coach David – firstname.lastname@example.org
Are you letting what most people think bring you down unnecessarily?
Sometimes we buy into believing what most people talk about and that can bring you down.
For example, if it’s raining outside when you wake up you may think “Ugh it’s raining outside, it’s going to be a gloomy, ikky day.” Or even “It’s so bad out today because it’s raining.”
Some other examples could be “Oh man tomorrow is Monday, back to the grind” or “It’s so hot out it’s miserable.”
I think you get the idea of what I’m talking about. Thinking these types of thoughts only serves to bring you down and helps to attract other experiences and circumstances to yourself that will also bring you down!
Isn’t it better if it’s raining out to think “Yay, it’s raining, I get to experience rain and that’s great” or “Tomorrow is Monday, excellent, I’m looking forward to experiencing a new day!” or “It’s so hot out, I’m so thankful I get to experience what that feels like.”
Do you see how you don’t have to go along with what most people proclaim, you can decide to turn those experiences into vibration raising experiences instead – it’s always a choice and I hope you decide to think on your own and go for the positive choice so that you’ll attract more positive experiences and thoughts into your life!
People interested in the Law of Attraction always want to know what keeps something they want from manifesting.
The answer is resistance is what keeps what you’re wanting from manifesting.
One place resistance is found is in the questions that most people get caught up in like “how is this going to come to me, I’m asking for too much?” or the ever popular “why is it taking so long to manifest?”
Once you get caught up in those types of questions, it brings your focus on the lack of what you’re wanting. Knowing that the Law of Attraction is always matching what you’re focusing on, you’re just going to get more of the same.
A good way to look at it is that when you get in your car to drive somewhere you know with certainty that you’re going to get there. You don’t turn around half way there thinking you better go back home because you’re not there yet! The same holds true for when you want to manifest something. You focus on the wanting of it without getting caught up in when or how it will arrive.
Once you work with a Law of Attraction life coach you’ll learn processes that lower the resistance to what you’re wanting and keep you focused on what you want. When you focus on what you want, and allow it to come, it will! What are you focusing on?
It would be so cool if there was a thought meter that would count how many thoughts we have throughout an entire day. To take it one step further, it would be even better if the meter would print out a report at the end of the day with two columns. Column one would be called “Negative Thoughts” and column two would be called “Positive Thoughts.” Then under each column it would print out what those thoughts were. I have a feeling the “Negative Thought” column would have a lot more thoughts on it than the positive thought column!
When you stop to think about it, we’re always thinking about something. Are you usually thinking about questions like these: why “something” went wrong? why don’t I have enough of “something”? why did this happen? why did that happen? why didn’t he do what he said he would do? why am I still doing what I don’t want to do? I’m afraid of what my future holds, I’m worried about “something”, will I ever fall in love? and on and on and on!
With all these negative thoughts running through your head all day long, it’s no surprise that all these thoughts mentioned above (and others along those lines) are still what’s manifesting for you.
The good news is that you can take control of your thoughts little by little, day by day, thought by thought. One way to do this is that when you find yourself thinking a negative thought, literally ask yourself “what do I want?” Once you know what you want (which is usually the opposite of the negative thought) and you start focusing on what you want, then eventually what you want will become what is. The trick is that you have to practice asking yourself that question “What do I want?” over and over. Eventually, with practice, more and more of your thoughts will be about what you want, instead of what you don’t want. Oh what a joyous day that will be.
It sounds easy enough, but will you really do it? I hope so!
Choose to have a great day.
Life Coach David
The question of the day is “Do you have to know how something you want is going to manifest?”
The answer is “no!”
When it comes to working with the Law of Attraction so many people get caught up in how something they want is going to manifest that it just keeps the resistance from blocking it. They think thoughts like “I want to go on a cruise but how is the money going to come?” or “I really want to buy that house, but it’s $30,000 more than I can afford.”
The good news is that it’s not your job to figure out the how. As hard as that may be for you to believe, it’s the truth.
Your job is to match the vibration of whatever it is you’re wanting, and then allow the Law of Attraction to deliver it without getting caught up in how or when.
Because once you get caught up in the how (or when), you start putting up resistance, and it’s the resistance that blocks the manifestation.
That’s why I use the processes I use with my clients (and with myself), because when you use them, you’re lessening the resistance to whatever it is you’re wanting and allowing your vibration to raise so you can match whatever it is you’re wanting.
Once you experience doing this, you really start to get it and that’s when positive changes start to occur.
It’s wonderful when you start to live your life from a Law of Attraction point of view.
Choose to have a great day!