Many people who contact about Law of Attraction coaching can’t understand why they’re not attracting what they want. One question I like to ask people is “How often each day do you spend focusing on what you want, and why you want it?” After a brief silence, they admit that it’s not very often. This is part of the problem. How can we expect to attract what we want if we’re not deliberately focusing on it every day? Then they want to know how often they should focus on what they want. Then I ask “How much do you want to attract “X” into your life?” “X” could be more money, a wonderful relationship, a better job, etc. They usually respond by saying they want to attract it in a big way. So the answer to how often is VERY often! We have to understand that we must focus on what we want, and why we want it as much as possible. Most people probably focus more on the lack of not having whatever it is they want – that just keeps it from manifesting. Though I teach my clients many processes to help them focus on what they want so they can attract it, thinking about what you want every day is key. So whoever is reading this – I’m asking you “How often do you focus on what you are wanting?”
People always ask me if they are trying to change by improving how they think and feel, do they have to let go of their friends who are more negative. The answer to this is yes and no! Obviously we can’t run from everyone because even though some people we know may be more negative, they may still have some good qualities we like about them. However, that being said, there may be some people we know who really are “toxic” and are so negative that it would be a good idea to greatly distance ourselves from them. A good idea when it comes to people we don’t want to totally distance ourselves from is to just limit our time with them. Maybe we only spend an hour with them instead of 3 hours. Or, maybe when we call them to chat if the conversation starts to veer towards negativity we do our best to change the subject. The reason for all this is because when it comes to the Law of Attraction, since it’s always responding to us, giving us more circumstances and situations that match our vibration, we want to spend more time at a higher vibration. A higher vibration feels good and that’s where we want to be as much as possible. When we keep ourselves at a higher vibration then we attract more experiences that are high vibration experiences. We’ll even attract people who are more positive, and some of our friends who are more low vibration will fade away because they can tell you’re not a match with them anymore. It’s also important to know that once we know how to deliberately keep ourselves at a raised vibration, lower vibration people won’t effect us as much because we’re feeling too good.
True Happiness comes from within – it’s not circumstantial. Of course when something good happens for us, it can make us happy in the moment. But, after a short amount of time the high from that wears off. However, if we learn how to be truly happy from within, and we are really feeling that way, Law of Attraction can’t help but bring us circumstances and experiences that support us feeling happy. So next time we realize we’re not feeling happy, we have to do something about it! Reach for better thoughts, do something fun, take control of our happiness without it depending on outside factors. Once we do that, not only will we feel better in general, we’ll really notice how we are more in control of being happy than we thought.
You have to be careful who you’re getting Law of Attraction advice from. The other day I received a phone call from an old friend. After catching up, she informed me that she was teaching people about the Law of Attraction. At first I was happy for her, and that more people are learning about LOA. However, then she went on for about 10 minutes complaining and complaining about how much money she doesn’t have, how it’s so hard to find an apartment, and other negative (low vibration) thoughts. After our conversation (or more like her rant about what she doesn’t want) it was clear that she really doesn’t understand the Law of Attraction at all. Because if she did she would know that all that complaining was just setting herself up for those things to continue to be difficult for her to manifest. Are you focusing alot on what you don’t want?
A similar story. For those of you who don’t know, I am also certified as a Consulting Hypnotist. During my training, someone in the program told me that she teaches a course part-time called “Laws of the Universe” in which she spends about 10 minutes teaching about the Law of Attraction, and then she moves on to the next topic. First I was a little suspicious about only spending 10 minutes teaching about it. Throughout the hypnosis training she would tell me different stories about her current life issues. It was clear to me that she may know the basic definition of LOA, but she certainly isn’t practicing what she preaches because her current life situation would be much different, and here she is teaching people about LOA! Are you using what you know about LOA to benefit your life?
The above stories really showed me that many people “out there” who know about, and even teach LOA, are not using what they know, or they don’t fully understanding LOA, and that reflects how their lives are. So please ask yourself – do you really understand what LOA is, and are you really using what you do know to improve your life?
Choose to have a great day!
Life Coach David – firstname.lastname@example.org
Are you letting what most people think bring you down unnecessarily?
Sometimes we buy into believing what most people talk about and that can bring you down.
For example, if it’s raining outside when you wake up you may think “Ugh it’s raining outside, it’s going to be a gloomy, ikky day.” Or even “It’s so bad out today because it’s raining.”
Some other examples could be “Oh man tomorrow is Monday, back to the grind” or “It’s so hot out it’s miserable.”
I think you get the idea of what I’m talking about. Thinking these types of thoughts only serves to bring you down and helps to attract other experiences and circumstances to yourself that will also bring you down!
Isn’t it better if it’s raining out to think “Yay, it’s raining, I get to experience rain and that’s great” or “Tomorrow is Monday, excellent, I’m looking forward to experiencing a new day!” or “It’s so hot out, I’m so thankful I get to experience what that feels like.”
Do you see how you don’t have to go along with what most people proclaim, you can decide to turn those experiences into vibration raising experiences instead – it’s always a choice and I hope you decide to think on your own and go for the positive choice so that you’ll attract more positive experiences and thoughts into your life!
The question of the day is “Do you have to know how something you want is going to manifest?”
The answer is “no!”
When it comes to working with the Law of Attraction so many people get caught up in how something they want is going to manifest that it just keeps the resistance from blocking it. They think thoughts like “I want to go on a cruise but how is the money going to come?” or “I really want to buy that house, but it’s $30,000 more than I can afford.”
The good news is that it’s not your job to figure out the how. As hard as that may be for you to believe, it’s the truth.
Your job is to match the vibration of whatever it is you’re wanting, and then allow the Law of Attraction to deliver it without getting caught up in how or when.
Because once you get caught up in the how (or when), you start putting up resistance, and it’s the resistance that blocks the manifestation.
That’s why I use the processes I use with my clients (and with myself), because when you use them, you’re lessening the resistance to whatever it is you’re wanting and allowing your vibration to raise so you can match whatever it is you’re wanting.
Once you experience doing this, you really start to get it and that’s when positive changes start to occur.
It’s wonderful when you start to live your life from a Law of Attraction point of view.
Choose to have a great day!
Every day when we wake up we start thinking about something. Thoughts come and go throughout the day. Some of the thoughts you’re thinking are negative (low vibration), and some are positive (high vibration). Most people go about their day as a victim to their thoughts. If something good happens, they’re in a good mood and will think what a great day they’re having. If something bad happens, they’ll most likely think what a bad day they’re having. It sounds simple, but it’s the truth. But the real question is “How often is the Law of Attraction effecting your life?” Is it sometimes or only when you think about it? The answer to that is a definite “no!” The Law of Attraction is effecting your life all the time, whether you’re aware that it is or not. It’s giving you more of what you’re thinking about and focusing on regardless if it’s “good” or “bad.” If you’re thinking about it, you’re going to get more of whatever that is. The good news is that you don’t have to be a “victim” to your thoughts and emotions. You can choose to do something about it so you can feel excited about your life all the time and start attracting more of what you want. One of the ways to do that is to start to become more aware of your thoughts and when you find you’re thinking something negative, flip that thought to the opposite, positive thought. For example, if you find you’re thinking about how you don’t have enough money, start to think how you have plenty of money and get excited about how that would feel. It doesn’t matter if you don’t have excess money because Law of Attraction is responding to your higher vibration about money and will start to make things happen in your life so that you start attracting more money if your thoughts are in tune with having plenty of money.