People always ask me if they are trying to change by improving how they think and feel, do they have to let go of their friends who are more negative. The answer to this is yes and no! Obviously we can’t run from everyone because even though some people we know may be more negative, they may still have some good qualities we like about them. However, that being said, there may be some people we know who really are “toxic” and are so negative that it would be a good idea to greatly distance ourselves from them. A good idea when it comes to people we don’t want to totally distance ourselves from is to just limit our time with them. Maybe we only spend an hour with them instead of 3 hours. Or, maybe when we call them to chat if the conversation starts to veer towards negativity we do our best to change the subject. The reason for all this is because when it comes to the Law of Attraction, since it’s always responding to us, giving us more circumstances and situations that match our vibration, we want to spend more time at a higher vibration. A higher vibration feels good and that’s where we want to be as much as possible. When we keep ourselves at a higher vibration then we attract more experiences that are high vibration experiences. We’ll even attract people who are more positive, and some of our friends who are more low vibration will fade away because they can tell you’re not a match with them anymore. It’s also important to know that once we know how to deliberately keep ourselves at a raised vibration, lower vibration people won’t effect us as much because we’re feeling too good.
We all want to manifest something. It may be a better job, a new job, a relationship, a car, a dream home, or even feeling happier. But how does the Law of Attraction play a part in that? Well it’s always playing a part! The thing is the Law of Attraction is always responding to us. What that means is that it’s always responding to the feeling (vibration) we’re offering in general and about specific things. For example, if we want to attract a wonderful relationship but we’re constantly walking around with thoughts like “why is it so hard to meet someone” or “I’m never going to meet someone special” or “how come my friends are all with someone, but I’m not?” These and other questions of doubt or lack means we’re putting out negative energy (low vibration) about meeting someone. The Law of Attraction is just matching that and saying “ok, here’s more of it being hard to meet someone.” And as a result we’ll have more experiences that support that. However, if we’re walking around thinking more positive about meeting someone like “I can’t wait to be in a wonderful, loving relationship” or “I’m so excited about meeting someone special” then we’re offering a good, positive feeling about it (a high vibration), and Law of Attraction will respond by suddenly you’ll meet someone, or a friend will suggest someone they thought of you could date. The trick is to not get caught up in when or how, because when we do that brings in the doubt again. It’s important to think about what we’re focusing on so that we attract what we want, instead of more of what we don’t want!
You have to be careful who you’re getting Law of Attraction advice from. The other day I received a phone call from an old friend. After catching up, she informed me that she was teaching people about the Law of Attraction. At first I was happy for her, and that more people are learning about LOA. However, then she went on for about 10 minutes complaining and complaining about how much money she doesn’t have, how it’s so hard to find an apartment, and other negative (low vibration) thoughts. After our conversation (or more like her rant about what she doesn’t want) it was clear that she really doesn’t understand the Law of Attraction at all. Because if she did she would know that all that complaining was just setting herself up for those things to continue to be difficult for her to manifest. Are you focusing alot on what you don’t want?
A similar story. For those of you who don’t know, I am also certified as a Consulting Hypnotist. During my training, someone in the program told me that she teaches a course part-time called “Laws of the Universe” in which she spends about 10 minutes teaching about the Law of Attraction, and then she moves on to the next topic. First I was a little suspicious about only spending 10 minutes teaching about it. Throughout the hypnosis training she would tell me different stories about her current life issues. It was clear to me that she may know the basic definition of LOA, but she certainly isn’t practicing what she preaches because her current life situation would be much different, and here she is teaching people about LOA! Are you using what you know about LOA to benefit your life?
The above stories really showed me that many people “out there” who know about, and even teach LOA, are not using what they know, or they don’t fully understanding LOA, and that reflects how their lives are. So please ask yourself – do you really understand what LOA is, and are you really using what you do know to improve your life?
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Life Coach David – firstname.lastname@example.org