Many people who contact about Law of Attraction coaching can’t understand why they’re not attracting what they want. One question I like to ask people is “How often each day do you spend focusing on what you want, and why you want it?” After a brief silence, they admit that it’s not very often. This is part of the problem. How can we expect to attract what we want if we’re not deliberately focusing on it every day? Then they want to know how often they should focus on what they want. Then I ask “How much do you want to attract “X” into your life?” “X” could be more money, a wonderful relationship, a better job, etc. They usually respond by saying they want to attract it in a big way. So the answer to how often is VERY often! We have to understand that we must focus on what we want, and why we want it as much as possible. Most people probably focus more on the lack of not having whatever it is they want – that just keeps it from manifesting. Though I teach my clients many processes to help them focus on what they want so they can attract it, thinking about what you want every day is key. So whoever is reading this – I’m asking you “How often do you focus on what you are wanting?”
People always ask me if they are trying to change by improving how they think and feel, do they have to let go of their friends who are more negative. The answer to this is yes and no! Obviously we can’t run from everyone because even though some people we know may be more negative, they may still have some good qualities we like about them. However, that being said, there may be some people we know who really are “toxic” and are so negative that it would be a good idea to greatly distance ourselves from them. A good idea when it comes to people we don’t want to totally distance ourselves from is to just limit our time with them. Maybe we only spend an hour with them instead of 3 hours. Or, maybe when we call them to chat if the conversation starts to veer towards negativity we do our best to change the subject. The reason for all this is because when it comes to the Law of Attraction, since it’s always responding to us, giving us more circumstances and situations that match our vibration, we want to spend more time at a higher vibration. A higher vibration feels good and that’s where we want to be as much as possible. When we keep ourselves at a higher vibration then we attract more experiences that are high vibration experiences. We’ll even attract people who are more positive, and some of our friends who are more low vibration will fade away because they can tell you’re not a match with them anymore. It’s also important to know that once we know how to deliberately keep ourselves at a raised vibration, lower vibration people won’t effect us as much because we’re feeling too good.
True Happiness comes from within – it’s not circumstantial. Of course when something good happens for us, it can make us happy in the moment. But, after a short amount of time the high from that wears off. However, if we learn how to be truly happy from within, and we are really feeling that way, Law of Attraction can’t help but bring us circumstances and experiences that support us feeling happy. So next time we realize we’re not feeling happy, we have to do something about it! Reach for better thoughts, do something fun, take control of our happiness without it depending on outside factors. Once we do that, not only will we feel better in general, we’ll really notice how we are more in control of being happy than we thought.
We all want to manifest something. It may be a better job, a new job, a relationship, a car, a dream home, or even feeling happier. But how does the Law of Attraction play a part in that? Well it’s always playing a part! The thing is the Law of Attraction is always responding to us. What that means is that it’s always responding to the feeling (vibration) we’re offering in general and about specific things. For example, if we want to attract a wonderful relationship but we’re constantly walking around with thoughts like “why is it so hard to meet someone” or “I’m never going to meet someone special” or “how come my friends are all with someone, but I’m not?” These and other questions of doubt or lack means we’re putting out negative energy (low vibration) about meeting someone. The Law of Attraction is just matching that and saying “ok, here’s more of it being hard to meet someone.” And as a result we’ll have more experiences that support that. However, if we’re walking around thinking more positive about meeting someone like “I can’t wait to be in a wonderful, loving relationship” or “I’m so excited about meeting someone special” then we’re offering a good, positive feeling about it (a high vibration), and Law of Attraction will respond by suddenly you’ll meet someone, or a friend will suggest someone they thought of you could date. The trick is to not get caught up in when or how, because when we do that brings in the doubt again. It’s important to think about what we’re focusing on so that we attract what we want, instead of more of what we don’t want!
You have to be careful who you’re getting Law of Attraction advice from. The other day I received a phone call from an old friend. After catching up, she informed me that she was teaching people about the Law of Attraction. At first I was happy for her, and that more people are learning about LOA. However, then she went on for about 10 minutes complaining and complaining about how much money she doesn’t have, how it’s so hard to find an apartment, and other negative (low vibration) thoughts. After our conversation (or more like her rant about what she doesn’t want) it was clear that she really doesn’t understand the Law of Attraction at all. Because if she did she would know that all that complaining was just setting herself up for those things to continue to be difficult for her to manifest. Are you focusing alot on what you don’t want?
A similar story. For those of you who don’t know, I am also certified as a Consulting Hypnotist. During my training, someone in the program told me that she teaches a course part-time called “Laws of the Universe” in which she spends about 10 minutes teaching about the Law of Attraction, and then she moves on to the next topic. First I was a little suspicious about only spending 10 minutes teaching about it. Throughout the hypnosis training she would tell me different stories about her current life issues. It was clear to me that she may know the basic definition of LOA, but she certainly isn’t practicing what she preaches because her current life situation would be much different, and here she is teaching people about LOA! Are you using what you know about LOA to benefit your life?
The above stories really showed me that many people “out there” who know about, and even teach LOA, are not using what they know, or they don’t fully understanding LOA, and that reflects how their lives are. So please ask yourself – do you really understand what LOA is, and are you really using what you do know to improve your life?
Choose to have a great day!
Life Coach David – email@example.com
People interested in the Law of Attraction always want to know what keeps something they want from manifesting.
The answer is resistance is what keeps what you’re wanting from manifesting.
One place resistance is found is in the questions that most people get caught up in like “how is this going to come to me, I’m asking for too much?” or the ever popular “why is it taking so long to manifest?”
Once you get caught up in those types of questions, it brings your focus on the lack of what you’re wanting. Knowing that the Law of Attraction is always matching what you’re focusing on, you’re just going to get more of the same.
A good way to look at it is that when you get in your car to drive somewhere you know with certainty that you’re going to get there. You don’t turn around half way there thinking you better go back home because you’re not there yet! The same holds true for when you want to manifest something. You focus on the wanting of it without getting caught up in when or how it will arrive.
Once you work with a Law of Attraction life coach you’ll learn processes that lower the resistance to what you’re wanting and keep you focused on what you want. When you focus on what you want, and allow it to come, it will! What are you focusing on?
Believe it or not, relationships and the Law of Attraction have alot to do with each other. When I use the word “relationships,” to me there are three types. There’s the relationship you have with yourself, the relationship(s) you have with other people, and of course the relationship you have, or want to have, with a love interest.
The thoughts and vibrations you’re putting out about all 3 types of relationships is exactly what you’re experiencing. Have you ever even thought about the relationship you have with yourself? Are you good to yourself, kind to yourself, or do you put yourself down? What about the relationships you have with other people? Do you enjoy them, criticize them, or go out of your way to make them “good?” And of course where are you thoughts about finding true love, or if you have found it, are you enjoying it, or complaining about it?
If you really take the time to ask yourself the above questions, it’s a great start to finding out where your thoughts/vibrations are when it comes to relationships.
Once you’re honest with yourself about where you stand, then you can start using Law of Attraction processes to start attracting the kind of relationships you really want, in all areas of your life, including with yourself!
Choose to have a great day!
Life Coach David